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October 06, 2011

Attention all moms and future moms (and a giveaway)

When I think back over my childhood, all I ever wanted to grow up to be was a mother.  When I was pregnant our first child, I thought all my dreams were coming true.  And then I had Elijah.

I did not suffer post-partum depression.  I did not have the baby blues.  But I was devastated because raising Elijah was NOTHING like what I thought it would be like.

Six years and 3 kids later, I am no longer devastated.  I have experienced many of the things I dreamed about.  I love singing to my kids and reading them books and tucking them in at night.  But I will admit, the day to day, ins and outs of motherhood are nothing like I'd imagined.  And I often wonder how my kids are going to turn out.

One of my goals as a mom is to learn from others' mistakes as much as possible. I love to get around friends who's kids are 5-10 years older than mine and ask them questions.  Especially other pastors' wives.  I want to know what they did right and what they would differently.

One of the moms in ministry that I most admire is my friend Kerri Weems.  Kerri has systems for her systems.  She is a chart guru.  I am sure she is not perfect, but when it comes to managing her household (while being the pastor's wife of one of the largest churches in America) Kerri is on top of it.  She has helped me understand that providing an easy, stress free meal of crock pot beef stew is more important than me spending half my afternoon preparing a gourmet meal of filet mignon and twice baked potatoes if I am going to yelling at my kids to leave me alone and I am flustered when my husband gets home.

In her book, CLUELESS: 10 Things I Wish I Knew About Motherhood... Before I Became a Mom, she shares 10 myths about motherhood.  The first chapter opens with a hilarious personal story.  This book will really encourage you in your adventures in motherhood.

The book is only available in electronically through kindle, nook and ebooks.  I love having her book on my iPhone (just download the kindle app).  I can read it in the car line, the doctor's office and in bed at night.

So today I am going to give away 5 kindle copies of the book.  Just leave a comment before tomorrow evening and I will randomly select 5 winners.  And the good news is we are all winners because the book only costs a little more than a Starbucks drink.


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Hi Holly! I just stumbled on your blog through your husband's FB site. I listened to his talk at the Leadership Summit (on video) tonight and thought he was great. As a pastor's wife and mom of 2 little ones (1 and 3), I'd love to be considered for one of these books. Thanks for your writing and God bless!

We are HUMAN. We lose our patience. I watch my youngest child's teacher speak to her class in a soft, sweet voice and cringe as I think about all the yelling I had already done in two hours. And do you know why I am yelling? Because we are behind and my oldest cannot be late to big school and mommy cant be late to work. Really, I am mad at myself because I, as the grown-up imperfect mom did not get up super early and I was not prepared. You have to expect your baby/toddler may have a huge poop diaper right before you need to leave. You have to remember that you have a pet (and children) who must be fed. You have to remember to roll the garbage out and back up on pick-up day (as a single parent) or suffer the wrath of a nasty letter taped to your door from a nasty, nasty neighbor for whom you may need to pray for. Or even worse, the dreaded letter from your HOA threatening to fine you or make you show up for a ridiculous "hearing" during your working hours. It is so much easier to block it out the night before and just go to bed only to wake up the next day and have to say "Jesus, Jesus, Jesus..." lest something not nice and very loud escapes your mouth for little ears. Whatever your situation.. yeah, you are perfect (some of you ALMOST are) ... we all have room for improvement and it is AWESOME to know that we all screw up. I love my children. I have a soft spot for most children.... little or big precious creatures. So... even with my crazy, messed up life.. GOD IS GOOD. And to Jade, ha ha ha ha ha! I remember the moment my spouse and I had the conversation about children. Oh NO!! I was not ready. Not financially and surely I was supposed to not work and stay home with a baby. I had it planned out. Found out I was pregnant about a month later. Freaked out. No way. But the moment I thought I was losing her (early on), the instinct kicked in and I became a fierce warrior. Mothers are warriors... you never know how strong you are until you have a little life (whether born unto you or adopted) who depends on you. Motherhood (and Faith) are very powerful elements. So, again, anyway, I blow it each day and then remind myself to pray (still not a great prayer) so that the words come out right. xoxoxoxoxoxoxox... Holly, that little Graham (as well as the beautiful other 2 amazing Furtick creations) has a sweet energy. Although he looks like Pastor, I hear he has your personality.

Yeah, I could use it.... Boy #3 is due in just a month (my two oldest are 4 and 14 months). I'm always open for advice! Sounds like a great book.

Oooh, this book looks great!

I bought it on my kindle within seconds of reading your post. I could really use some encouragement right now. It took us 4 years to have a child. We went through two miscarriages, one in the second trimester, during the process. I quit my career as a CPA to raise him, and I have no regrets about that. But boy has it been the hardest nine months ever. After four months of all day colic, he's still one of the grumpiest and easily frustrated babies I know. At his nine month old well visit today, I was told I have a strong-willed child. I expected it to be hard, but I really had no idea what it would be like. We've had no help, and I've only spent a couple of hours away from him since he was born. When you've wanted something so badly for so long it feels very hypocritical to complain when you get him. So, I try to be positive most of the time, but my little guy has brought me to tears more times than I care to admit, and I used to pride myself on not being a cryer. I feel clueless most days and like I must be doing something wrong. I'll be demolishing this book.

Thanks, Holly, for sharing! I can't wait to read this book!

I could use it... I'm a mom of a toddler and an almost 6 year old (going on 15). I could really use some more wisdom from another mom who has been there... Thanks.

Wow, I think I need to read this book because I am the type of wife and mom who stresses out about the fact I haven't made a filet mignon dinner to perfection. I feel my everday job as a mom and wife is to make sure everything is where it needs to be or it is to its best perfection. Hope I am not too late in putting in this comment and a chance at winning the book.

I am so excited to find out about this book! Thanks, Holly, for introducing us to it!

I would love to read the book on my Kindle! Recently, my husband and I have been talking and praying about when to start trying for a baby. It seems like the biological clock has started ticking...for both of us! (especially for my husband, he like to point out baby he sees!) Our friends joke with us about feeling neglected because we really just want to spend time with their kids when we all get together. I think reading the book would help prepare us for the realities of children, not just the dream.

I'm a single woman in my 20s and God has put it on my heart this year to learn what I can now about becoming a wife and mother - something he has given me a desire for in the future! I think it's so important to store away knowledge and insight from women in other seasons of life!

I truly dream of being a mom one day, too.

Somedays I am so ready to get married and start a family, but other days it freaks me out! Thanks for always being open about what God is teaching you. I love following your blog. I will definitely have to look this book up and try to be somewhat more prepared when God blesses me with a family of my own. Thanks again!

Thank you for sharing!

I am a single mom of 3 wonderful children and often second guess my parenting skills. I cover my kids in prayer each day but struggle oftentimes with a sense of failure due to the absence of the total family unit. I just wanted to comment on your blog, Holly. It helps me more than you know and I value your input as a young, christian mother. We love you and all your family stands for. Give the book to one of the others, this comment is just to thank you. :)

I would love to have this book! I'm also a PW and mom to 4 boys!

Wow!! That book couldn't have come at a better time in my life. Being a wife, mother of 4, and a Pastor's wife has really been hard lately. I look forward to reading this!!

Yes, being a mom is not what people think it is!!! It is tough and wonderful at the same time.

I'm a mother if two young boys and am ALWAYS hungry for more wisdom!!! My husband and I are going through the stages of launching your first Canadian Elevation Extention site...and loving every minute of the journey. Thanks for sharing YOUR journey through your blog. Blessings!

What an encouraging post! Thank you :)

Thank you for your honesty in your posts. I love reading your blog.
I had my miracle baby just six weeks ago, and like you I find myself so thankful for the moms who've gone before me that share their failures and successes. I'm so glad we don't have to walk through life alone! Kerri's book sounds encouraging and refreshing to me, as I live with autoimmune disease and I'm already learning that as a mom I'm going to need more help and less complicated goals than I'd like - and that's okay :)

Sounds like such a great book!!! I cannot wait to start my family...but sounds like I need to read this first.

I need some good reading material for my quiet days in VA :)

Thanks for sharing!

Holly, I am in the stage of life in your first sentance...craving a child but probably clueless :) Thanks for the giveaway!

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